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 Please read before contacting me or any other escort. Escort Etiquette
Anyways, you make the call....Escorts are a tremendous value. Excerpt from http://www.mentertainment.com/
A Men's Guide by Marc Perkel |
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Paying for a relationship doesn't mean you're some kind of loser. There are a number of advantages that are worth considering. |
A lot of men have a real mental barrier about having to "pay for it." This is an artificial barrier because there's nothing wrong with paying for sex -- and there are a lot of advantages to doing so. Paying for it doesn't make you any less of a man. In fact, if you've never tried escorts before, you'll find that the experience is probably different than what you've been led to think it is. And when you realize how it really works, you'll look at it in a very different light. Free sex isn't really free. In order to get a woman to have free sex with you, you have to find someone who is attracted to you and wants to have sex with you. For most of us, this takes a lot of work.
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If you start a relationship, you run into one of the biggest problems with free sex: You both have to want it at the same time. You can't just get it when you want it. And then you have to deal with "where is this relationship going," and how you feel about monogamy and marriage (Which I call "doing the "M" word"). Then there's the question of dealing with her friends, her family, her lawyer, her religion, her spending habits, her television preferences, her moods, her shrink, her astrologer, her dealing with your friends and family, and trying to adjust to each other's grooming habits, musical tastes, money, property, children, pets, ex-lovers, jealousy, anger, bullshit ... all this when all you really wanted was just to get laid.
Escorts are helpful in recovering after divorce or other form of personal emotional loss. You can tell escorts personal secrets that you'd never tell your closest friends. |
Many escorts have learned and can teach you advanced sexual techniques. They are open to answering questions about women that most people won't discuss. Escorts can help you sharpen your sexual skills. |
Maybe you just got divorced or dumped and you're hurting and need someone to be with. Being with an escort is a great way to recover from a lost relationship. No, it isn't the same as "true love," but it can make you feel a lot better about yourself and help build back your confidence so that you're functional and attractive to women again. Women like men who are confident and they are repulsed by men who are sexually needy. That's why when you need to get laid the most, women don't want to be with you. And that's where escort services play an important role in society. They help men who need to get laid, get laid. And these men are far better for it.
I don't know if my therapist really likes me of if he's just pretending to like me because I'm giving him money. |
There are a lot of men who have been through the divorce courts who still want to have sex without giving everything they own to lawyers. Escorts offer a lawyer free alternative to a traditional relationship. |
To have sex when you want it, with whom you want it, and where you want it is well worth paying for. It's just like ordering pizza delivered. You're paying extra for convenience and service.
Exactly What is an Escort Service?
Movies and television depict prostitutes in a few limited and unrealistic ways, mostly to the detriment of the women. There's the drug-addicted street walker standing on a dark and dangerous corner with a black pimp who beats her hiding in the shadows. Then there's the whore who inhabits a giant Victorian brothel where a guy plays piano in the parlor and the women are slaves to an obese madame and secretly hate their work and their customers. In all the television I've watched, the only TV show that seemed to come closest to accurately depicting the relationship between and escort and her client was the TV series DALLAS where J.R. Ewing had this ongoing relationship with a woman named "Sabrina" that came in and out of his life over the years the show was on the air.
Escorts are women just like any other woman. The nicer you are to them, the better time you both have. Escorts give men the opportunity to practice and become a better partner for when the "right one" comes along. |
Using an escort service means that you are dealing with an agency, just like any other service agency. You don't pick up a street walker and you don't go to a whore house. Instead, you call and arrange for companionship, and a woman comes to your home or motel room and spends time with you in your space. You get the advantage of not having to go anywhere and of being in your own home where you're most comfortable -- or in your motel room if you are on a business trip or you're married and can't do it in the home. It's that simple.
These days there are a lot of independent escorts who work for themselves and advertize on the web. Some of them have there own web sites. I keep a list of some here on my site and there are plenty of others if you search google. And there are escorts that advertize in personal ads on personal ad sites. Generally they will advertize on adult person ad sites like Adult Friendfinder where they word the ad in a way that if you pay attention - they are looking for a paid relationship. I tend to recommend the larger adult matchmaking sites like Adult Friendfinder because the more women on the site the more you'll have to choose from in your area.
Calling the Escort Service
Escort services are listed in the yellow pages under Escorts, Entertainment, or Massage. That's if you are in a larger city. If you live in a small town you might want to look online if you can't find it anywhere else. You might want to call several escort services in your area to get familiar with what is being offered. Understand, though, that they might not be able to fully describe over the phone what they do because they don't want to get busted by the law. In other words, if they say they offer "full female companionship," or a "girl friend experience (gfe)" you're supposed to be sharp enough to figure out that you're going to get laid.
There are some escort services that don't offer sex as part of their product line and fail to make that clear. If you are in doubt you might want to indicate that you are interested in "full female companionship" and if the agency can't accommodate that they should let you know up front. You don't want the escort to show up and there be a miscommunication.
Typically, the escort service will tell you that there is an "agency fee" that goes to the service and then there are "tips" -- which is what you pay the pro for her services. On the phone they won't likely give you a price list of what you get for what money, but you can ask questions like, "If I have $200 on me, do you think that would cover the average tip?" This will give you a ballpark idea of what you'll be paying. I used to live in Springfield, Missouri, and around there usually a $100 tip and a $50 agency fee will get you laid. In San Francisco expect to pay between $250 - $400. Prices vary from area to area. Generally Escorts and Lawyers make the same hourly rate.
Usually the agency will describe the age, hair color, measurements, and weight of the escorts. If that's all you want to know, this may be enough description for you. But I encourage you to ask for what you want in some detail. You may be looking for a personality type, for instance, or someone with a specific ethnic background. In my case, I like women who like their work; I like them really horny -- and that's what I ask for. Some escort services won't give you that kind of information over the phone -- or the person working the phones may not know much about the personalities of the women. If you're interested in anything unusual, like anal, bondage, costumes, or whatever, you should say what you're interested in. The agency might recommend someone who specializes in your interest. You might want to call several services, so that you can find the agency that will make it their business to supply you with the experience you desire.
If you contact an independent escort online you have the advantage of getting to know her personally through email and/or online chat. This is a safer way to do it because it allows you and the escort to get to know each other first. You might get a picture and be able to interact first and know what each other likes. That way when she shows up she's not a "total stranger". And - if she knows you and what you like - she's going to be more prepared to show you a good time. So - if you want to be whipped - she'll have her cat of nine tails with her.
Many escorts are moving to online escorting because its safer for them too. There's less law enforcement online and its not real different than dating. Its safer for them because they would rather know you more than to show up and fuck whoever opens the door. Its well worth exploring the online services especially if you are new to this. If you're a cyber virgin - there's a lot of fun things you can do online that will prepare you for your sexual experience. Writing hot email is great foreplay and its easier to get very sexual while you are still anonymous.
Here's an example of how this works: I was visiting in San Jose, California, and I called a service there. They asked me what I was looking for. I said, "Well, this is California and I want the California experience. I want a woman who represents what the Beach Boys are singing about in the song, 'I wish they all could be California Girls'." The woman understood exactly what I was talking about and sent me this pretty little brunette who called herself "Mindy" -- and she was just what I wanted. Mindy was one hot little woman who really enjoyed her work and we both had a great time. Years later - even after she got out of the business I can to San Jose again and she still wanted to see me. And if I hadn't asked for what I wanted - I might not have met her. So don't be shy about letting the service know what you're looking for and don't be afraid to shop around until you get what you want.
One of the best way to find an escort is to get a friend who is into escorts to recommend and escort or an escort service. |
Generally, the phone operator who takes the calls knows who's available and will page the woman you pick. The escort will return the operator's call and the agency will then call you back to confirm that she's on her way.
Sometimes the woman you've chosen is not available. Don't be surprised if the service calls you back and tells you that the one you picked didn't answer her page. You might want to mention a second choice then, or try another service. This business is imperfect, so don't expect the same reliability you get from your doctor. Independent escorts that you meet online have less problems with scheduling because they do their own scheduling. So they are more likely to show up when they are supposed to.
The best times to call escort services are from 5:00 PM till midnight. This is the hours that most of them are working and you get the best selection. Although many services are 24 hours, not that many are still working at 4:00 am and are often rather wore out by then. I like to call early in the evening because I like it "fresh".
Communicating by Email
If you meet an escort online through an online dating service such as Adult Friendfinder or I Want You then you have the advantage of getting to know them first, and them getting to know you first. This is important - especially if you are new at this - because it will make you less nervous when the time to meet in person comes. And she will be less nervous too. You have to remember that these women are women and even though they are "professionals" most women are a little nervous when meeting a new guy that they are about to be intimate with. Email becomes a form of foreplay.
Email is a very sexually exciting way to communicate and at first stay anonymous. And - as to anonymous - you probably don't want to use your real email address that you use for everything else. There are a lot of free services like Yahoo and Hotmail that will give you a free email account. Anonymous is not only safer - but its sexier. Its easire to get very sexual when no one knows who you are.
You've heard if online cyber sex - but - until you have experienced it - you have no idea how interesting it can be. I've found that you can easilly bring a woman to orgasm mearly by typing words. Its rather amazing actually. And - when a woman is anonymous - she's a whole different person. Email and chat give you the anonymous experience.
Once you start communicating online with an escort - it can be very hot for both of you. And - you get to know each other really well - sexually that is. You don't have to worry about your looks or your body language or what your voice sounds like or how you smell. Its all mental - and - you'll learn that the art of sex is mostly mental too. I describe that in more detail in my Nerd's Guide to Sex. But trust me - its all about mental imagery - and online - its all mental.
Years ago I had a friend who did radio ads for me when I owned a couple of computer stores. We used to put together the most outrageous radio spots and he told be something that I'll never forget. He said that radio was far more visual than television because you can use sound to paint any kind of mental image you want - where television was limited to what you can afford to create. Online sex is like that. I can use words and become a nine foot tall slimey space alien - grey tentacles with lots of suckers and an appatite for swuirming female flesh and women picture that and are all over me, even though in real life I'm just an aging fat nerd.
You don't have to start out as a space alien - but you can talk about your sexual fantasies and see if you can find common ground exporing the common mental imagery that perpetuate the human race. If you can establish this kind of online foreplay then by the time you get together physically - you're both ready for it. And it is something that anyone can do and its not hard to learn and it will help you understand women better. Something that is worth understanding.
Many online dating services also have live online chat. Or you can download Yahoo Messenger and go to the chat rooms and explore online interaction. Its a good way to help you start communicating verbally about sexuality. Understanding what gets women really hot is the first step to becomming an incredible lover. And escorts are looking for guys like you who are ready to learn how the game is really played.
NOTE: For escorts reading this or women who are interested in becoming escorts - I wrote an article about how to become an escort using personal ads called The Shy Girl's Guide to Becoming a Whore. This is a step by step guide for women who want to explore that aspect of their sexuality. Many women have told me that they have always wanted the experience of being a whore. This is how you can do it without having to actually take a job in the profession. Many women have written me about this and have tried it once just for the experience. Its can be something that's very empowing and creates sexual confidence.
Escort Services vs. Online Escorts
Which is better - escort service or online escorts. Well - that depends on where you live. In the bigger cities many local escort agencies have web sites so the you can see the escorts and read a little about them. The more you know the better. If you call them on the phone then you'll just get a vauge discription. But - if you live in a small town you might not have a lot of choice. Online has the advantage of "cutting out the middleman" and deal directly with the escort. And - an online escort at least has some computer skills which is somewhat of an IQ prequalifier. And - you can intereact with her to determine who is right for you.
On the other hand - many escort services has a long track record and a steady clientel and prescreen quality escorts. In this kind of situation - trust and reliability are important. Someone with a phone number in the Yellow Pages might be less likely to scam you than someone without a permantent presence. So it really depends on your location and your needs. But the shift towards online grows every year as more and more women get into this on a recreational basis.
I've written my Shy Girl's Guide to Becoming a Whore targeted at women who are not looking to be a full time escort - but are looking for an escort experience. Many women look up to hookers as sexual role models and it has become somewhat of a goal for ordinary women to fulfill their "Whore" fantasy and experience what its like to do it themselves.
Women who often have self esteam issues and low self confidence about their atractiveness to men can get a lot of reassurance about themselves when a man is willing to pay them for sex. And what kind of man do these women want to get together with to fulfill this sexual desire? Guys just like you - who are reading this article and know how to treat an escart right. You can be some woman's first time escort experience - and because you read this - you know just exactly what to do to be everything she dreamed was possible.
Preparing to Meet your Escort
Escorts are women and they like to be treated like women. They don't like being treated like low life whores. The happier you make them, the happier they make you. I have found that escorts are some of the finest and most interesting women you'll ever meet and it's a real treat to get to know them. I recommend that you prepare for your escort's arrival the same way you would for a date. After all, escorts offer more than just sex. Often you can get good conversation and personal companionship as well. And you get these other services by being as nice to them as to any other woman you date. These escorts are, after all, women and they like all the things that any other woman would like. And it's a good way to keep in practice in getting ready for other dates.
Prepare for an escort the same way you would prepare to meet a special date. Treat her like a queen and she'll treat you like a king. |
Make sure you turn the porch light on so that she can find the house. You don't want her to waste a lot of time locating the place. Be sure to put your valuables away. Don't leave your wallet out on the table, because there's no point in putting a stranger in a situation that tests her honesty. But do have the fee and the tip out and laying on the table when she arrives.
If the escort is more than half an hour late, call the agency to check on her status. They might say that she's on her way and tell you when she will get there, but sometimes they will have to page her again. Many times agencies promise that the escort will arrive at a time that isn't realistic. Sometimes the escort just doesn't call in and they have to get someone else. I get really frustrated when an agency fails to deliver, but sometimes you have to stay on them to get someone to actually show up. You might have to try several services before you find one that is consistently reliable.
The Escort Arrives
When the escort arrives, treat her like a blind date. Tell her she looks nice. Smile, be friendly. Invite her in. I generally keep a variety of refreshments to offer her, like wine, soft drinks, fruit juice. If you smoke you can let her know she can smoke. If you don't, then let her know she can't.
If this is your first time with her, she will probably go into a script. She needs to know you're not a cop or a violent weirdo or someone who's going to be trouble. She also needs to let you know that she's expecting you to pay up front, but she can't ask you to give her money for sex, because that would be prostitution, and that's not what she does.
Generally the woman will start out asking something neutral like, "Have you used the service before?" She trying to determine what you know and what she's going to have to tell you about. If you've used other services before then let her know that so she knows that you understand the rules.
If you don't know what to do and it's your first time, just say so. That way she can give you the information you need. If you're embarrassed or nervous, let her know it's your first time and that you feel a little awkward. This helps her to help you relax, talk a little more, and allow you to get comfortable. Everyone has a first time for calling an escort service and part of the escort's job is to let you know how to do it.
She will then explain the rules about the agency fee and the tips, tell you that you are expected to pay up front and what the time limits are. She will explain that there are different tips for different services. Eventually she will ask you, "What do you want to do?" When she asks you this, you are expected to tell her what you want. This is usually an awkward moment if it's your first time. What you want to get across is whether you want to get laid, just want head, or both. And you can just say it if you want, and that's fine. These women aren't shy and you can be comfortable talking to them about your sexual interests. That is what they are there for and they aren't bashful.
It's just my personality, but I like to start with some humor to break the ice. I may ask, "How much would you charge to have my baby?" This usually gets them laughing -- and some find it erotic. They'll usually say something like, "I don't do that," or, "You couldn't afford it," to which I might reply, "Well, then, how much for an attempt?" This is a good way to lighten up the mood.
Many women are escorts because they like their job. The more comfortable they feel around you, the more they can enjoy their work. |
After you let her know what you want it's time to give her the money. She'll let you know what she expects and how to pay her. The best way is to lay it on a table and have her pick it up rather than handing it to her. It's a legal thing: You're not really giving her thee money for sex. You're paying her for her time and tipping her because she is a beautiful and attractive woman. And this beautiful woman finds you irresistible as well and you are so attractive that even though she shouldn't, she just can't control her desires and can't resist having sex with you. You get the picture ...
After she's been paid, she will usually have to call the agency and let them know she has arrived, been paid, and that everything is fine so they can start the clock running. (When your time is up, the agency will call you back if she hasn't called in first.) After she gets off the phone, she's all yours.
This is the time to start getting relaxed with the escort, time for a little small talk. She may ask what you do; you might ask how long she's been working in this field and what she likes. If you're having personal problems, you might want to talk to her about them. I find it's easier to talk to an escort than a psychologist and the advice is just as good. Escorts are an anonymous person, who is a woman, and you can ask her anything about women that you would be afraid to ask other women you know. Most escorts love to answer these questions and they are glad to fill you in on the secrets that hardly any guys know about what women really want. In fact, although most men think they know women, they really don't. According to many escorts I've talked to, the average guy doesn't have a clue about what women want. If you ask a few questions you might find that you can learn a lot of things you didn't know.
Don't Get Ripped Off
I have never been ripped off - but I have had people write me who have been scammed. As with anything - you need to be street smart. You want to be careful in selecting an escort that the person you are dealing with will act in a professional manner.
Generally you pay up front shortly after meeting - although there are escorts who ask for the money afterwards. But - she should not get the money and then need to leave the room to get something. One thing that can happen is that she gets paid - then says she forgot the condoms in her car - and then drives away. This can happen to you and there's not a lot you can do about it - but you should ask her to leave the money if she needs to go out of the room.
Doing the Deed
At some point she will ask you if you want to "get comfortable." This means "are you ready to have sex?" Your job now is to lead her to the bedroom and get naked. To protect herself legally, she will wait until the client is naked before she undresses. I suppose the legal idea here is that you've paid for a massage, but when she sees your irresistible naked body, she can no longer control herself and has to fuck you.
Relax and enjoy it. She a pro and you're the client. This isn't a woman you have to impress. She's been with a lot of other men who are a lot better looking than you, and a lot worse looking than you. As far as comparing yourself to other clients, if you are clean, sober, and nice to her, and made her laugh, you're already in the top 10% of all clients and you're doing just fine.
If you're nervous, you might start out with a back rub to get used to touching each other. Take your time. If this is your first time and you're uncomfortable, you might want to agree up front that you may need extra time and work out an extra tip and agency fee so that you can take longer if necessary. That way you don't have to rush things.
During foreplay, touch her softly like you would do with any other lover. Be romantic. Even though she is a pro, she is also a woman and her body responds like any woman's. If you know what you're doing, she is going to have a very good time too. Women enjoy sex and if the situations is right, they like to get their rocks off, just like you.
You want to be sensitive to what she wants. Some women don't like you to put your finger in them. Others just love it. If she says don't do something, don't do it. Most escorts don't do anal sex, so if that's what you want, you should say so when you call and get an escort that will do it. Also, kissing on the mouth is generally a no-no, so don't even try without asking first.
A condom is required. Don't ask if you can skip it because VD is real and the woman doesn't want to get it, or give it to you. However, many women don't buy the best condoms, so if you have a brand you like, buy your own and offer to use your condoms. It will save her from having to use one of hers. It will also avoid an awkward delay if she forgets to bring one and would otherwise have to leave and run to the store to get one. This actually happens more often than it should.
Being clean is a big turn on for escorts. Women like guys when they just got out of the shower. All women like candle light. Escorts are no exception. |
Having Good Sex
Okay, here are some tips on how to do it right. If you want all the details about how to do it right you're going to have to Read my Book. People think that great lovers do great things that the average person could never do. That's not the way it really is. The way it really is is that a lot of guys do things wrong and a lot of what makes a great lover is not doing things wrong. So what I'm going to do here is give you the basics and tell you how to learn more for yourself.
True love is just one style of having sex. There are many other styles. Just because you're not in love doesn't mean it's not personal and intimate. |
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